Thursday, 25 July 2013

An issue of violence

I've debated writing this post for a while now. Constantly changing my mind over it, should I write it? Should I post it? And I've decided to bite the bullet and just do it.

The reason I'm in two minds about this post is because it deals with the difficult topic of violence against women. And that's not what my blog is about. I know I can't always write about love and romance, it'd get boring pretty quickly, and life is not all fluffy kittens, rainbows and roses, as much as we might want it to be. But at the same time I'm not sure if it's my place to discuss this kind of thing.

Allow me to give you some background information as to why this topic bothers me so much. A long time ago I was stupid enough to be involved with someone who wasn't good for me. I don't want to go into the details, that's not what this is about, but that experience has helped shape my view on something so important.

Recently, I was shocked and more than a little upset by something I witnessed on television. I watch Big Brother here in the UK. (Yes, I admit it.) And normally it's daft and fun to watch. People seeking their fifteen minutes of fame, and the lengths they're willing to go in order to achieve it. Normally it's just a little bit of entertaining fluff. This year, not so much.

I am referring to a very specific incident that occurred. During a play fight gone bad, one of the male housemates wrapped his hand around the throat of a female housemate. He then proceeded to pin her to the bed, using threatening language, telling her to, "respect her elders", or he'd finish her, "respect your elders or I'll nut you."

It's very easy to find out who these two housemates are, it's even possible to view the incident, I think. I know I saw it that night on the edited and aired version of the show. I've left names out because for what I'm talking about it's not important. Now, I've sat on this for a while. I've spent a lot of time thinking about it. And it still bothers me now. What I witnessed that night was beyond upsetting. And what I've seen since has upset me further.

I don't condone violence towards women. Ever. Neither do I condone it towards men. It's something I find despicable. Violence is never the answer. But what I've found to be worse is the attitude of some of the public towards the situation. Claiming that if the female housemate hadn't been flirting with him, then it wouldn't have escalated to the point of violence. To me what happened wasn't a "threat" of violence as it has sometimes been described, he laid hands on her, to me, that is violence.

I know not everyone will agree with me. But I don't understand the mentality that has developed in today's society. Something like this happens and we spend our time blaming the woman, or looking for ways to make it her fault. Its happened during rape cases where they try to make the victim look guilty. The clothes she wore, how much she drank, or the fact that she flirted. None of those things should ever come into it. It's never an excuse. We shouldn't have the mentality that "insert action here, e.g. short skirt, flirting, etc" caused the man to insert repercussion here "attack, rape, etc".

Maybe I'm terribly naive. I don't know. All I'm saying and thinking in my head is where have we gone so wrong that we immediately blame the woman? When did it become acceptable to condone violence? I don't have the answers. All I can hope is that maybe people start to look at the way they react to these types of situations. That we realise it is never the victims fault, violence in all its forms is never, ever the answer.



I came across this video a little while ago and it reduced me to tears. I wanted to share it with you all, his words are touching and come from the heart. You couldn't ask for more than that.

Be safe.

Love,

Millie

Wednesday, 17 July 2013

My thoughts on Love and Romance and a blog hop!


Love and Romance.

Writing lots of romance has caused me to spend a lot of time thinking about love and romance. What it means to each of my characters. How it changes from book to book, and all the different reactions that can be had?

So it’s brought me to this point. I want to talk to you about what I feel love and romance is. What it means to me. I know it means something different to everyone. Some see love and romance as romantic dinners, gifts, sex. And yeah, they can be the icing on the cake.

But for me, love and romance is something a little different. It’s the acceptance by my partner of who I am. That he loves me, still wants to hold me even after I’ve ranted and raved about something pointless, for an hour.

Love and romance for me is knowing that he sees me as his equal in everything. That in everything he does, chooses, decides, that my feelings and personality are taken into consideration.

The knowing that he would rather hurt, than for something to hurt me. The knowing that if he could take my burdens in life and carry them himself that he would.

It’s the little things. He listens to the music that I like, even if sometimes it includes a sappy Taylor Swift song on repeat. He listens to me. Through the wacky, and the weird, to the down right bonkers ideas and schemes, he listens… And more importantly he hears me…

When I’m feeling insecure, unattractive, or stupid, he doesn’t dismiss my thoughts. He doesn’t tell me I’m being silly, or over the top. He shows me all the ways he loves me, shows me that I’m not stupid or any other negative I can think to throw at myself in that moment. He lets me see how special I am through his eyes.

For me love and romance is the moment he takes my hand. The moment his fingers close around mine and his eyes can’t seem to leave my face. It’s that split second before his lips meet mine, when his breath tickles across my cheeks and my eyes drift closed.

It’s when I wake up in the morning and he smiles at me, looks at me like I’m the most beautiful creature he has ever seen.

All these things spell love and romance for me and they tell me something very important too… They tell me I’m so lucky to have found a man that can give me all of these things and so much more. He is everything I ever wanted, and everything I never knew I wanted until I met him.

I think Sam from Sacrifice said it best with, “There is no life without love. No life without her.” And to that I say, “There is no life without love. No life without him.”

To the man of my dreams, thank you for being real.

So to help spread the love, I’m giving away two signed copies of my newest book Sacrifice. To enter, all you need to do is comment with an answer to my question and your email so I can contact you if you win. And it's international!

What does love and romance mean to you?

To whet your appetite, here is the blurb and cover for Sacrifice.




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"The moment Sam looked at me, I knew he saw me. The real me, not the one I pretended to be. He saw beyond my pretense to the girl beneath. The girl who cried herself to sleep at night. The girl who pushed people away, when all she really wanted was for someone to look her in the eye and tell her everything would be alright. That life wasn't always pain. That living wasn't always this difficult. That the ones you loved didn't always leave you behind. In that moment, Sam saw me, and I saw him. And I knew without a doubt that I would love him and he would betray me."




Natasha Masterton, a young college student on the verge of graduation, has the world at her feet. But all is not at it seems. Her mother is dead and she hasn't seen her father in over three years. The only dealing she has with him is when he deposits her allowance into a bank account every month. Her father's lack of interest has hardened Natasha to the rest of the world, leaving her cold and more than a little broken.


When Sam Harker crashes into Natasha's life, asking questions about her father and dragging up the past, Natasha's interest in piqued. The more time she spends with him, the more she falls for his easy charm and quick smile.



But Sam has secrets of his own - secrets that threaten their blossoming relationship. And when the real reason for Natasha's fathers disinterest becomes apparent, a sacrifice must be made. 



Love, honor and duty collide... risking more than just a broken heart. Sometimes love is worth the ultimate price.



Recommended for 17+ due to mature themes and scenes of an adult nature.


When the hop ends I will randomly pick two winners from the commenters here. Not only that, but as this is the insatiable reads hop, you have the chance to win other fabulous prizes, by following the link to the other blogs participating.

For the blog hop the first place grand prize is a Kindle Fire. And second place is a $50 gift card! So get entering!

The blog hop is now closed and the winners have been chosen. Thanks to everyone who took part!

For my own giveaway of two signed paperbacks, the winners are: Cassandra dixiedukegurl2 AT yahoo DOT com

And: Cara Lumanesce lumanesce AT gmail DOT com

Congratulations! The emails have been sent.


Sign Up for the Hot Summer Romance Giveaway Hop - Sponsored by the Insatiable Reads Tour - July 18-21.

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2. Susan Arden  41. Close Encounters with the Night Kind  80. Mary Eason  119. Deanna's Tidbits  
3. Malia Mallory  42. Lucy Felthouse  81. Ramblings From A Chaotic Mind  120. Cassandra Dean (INT)  
4. Emme Rollins  43. Leontii Holender  82. Sydney Jane Baily: Spark: A Writer's Site  121. J.L. Hammer  
5. PJ Adams  44. Kimber Vale  83. Eromantica by Seven McBay  122. Jennifer Simpkins  
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11. Krista Lakes  50. Amber Skyze  89. Allyson Lindt  128. Normandie Alleman  
12. Melanie Marchande  51. Brandi Salazar (INT)  90. Reading Reality  129. Romantic Reading Escapes  
13. Siren Allen  52. Xakara  91. Stacey @ Sassy Book Lovers  130. Lacey Silks  
14. Juliette Springs  53. Louisa Bacio  92. Wicked Wolves & Dreaming Dragons  131. M. B. Feeney  
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29. Jessica E. Subject  68. Rose Anderson  107. MamaJo  146. Rhonda Laurel  
30. Kitt Crescendo  69. J.D. Faver  108. Deena Ward  147. Love Saves the World (INT)  
31. Gale Stanley  70. Brynna Curry  109. Holly Hood  148. Jay @ Vailia's Page Turner  
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Thursday, 4 July 2013

Sacrifice - A New Adult Novel - And a Book Tour

Happy 4th of July!

Sacrifice finally made it out into the big bad world. It was touch and go for a while, but all good things come to those who wait :)

Sam and Natasha are just the sweetest thing and I really hope you'll love reading about them as much as I loved writing about them. There is no cliffhanger at the end but it does have the potential for another book in the series, but that depends on you. Would you like to see more of these characters? Perhaps find out how Rachel and Adam are getting along? Well I want you to tell me.


************ 99c for a limited time only! **************

"The moment Sam looked at me, I knew he saw me. The real me, not the one I pretended to be. He saw beyond my pretense to the girl beneath. The girl who cried herself to sleep at night. The girl who pushed people away, when all she really wanted was for someone to look her in the eye and tell her everything would be alright. That life wasn't always pain. That living wasn't always this difficult. That the ones you loved didn't always leave you behind. In that moment, Sam saw me, and I saw him. And I knew without a doubt that I would love him and he would betray me."

Natasha Masterton, a young college student on the verge of graduation, has the world at her feet. But all is not at it seems. Her mother is dead and she hasn't seen her father in over three years. The only dealing she has with him is when he deposits her allowance into a bank account every month. Her father's lack of interest has hardened Natasha to the rest of the world, leaving her cold and more than a little broken.

When Sam Harker crashes into Natasha's life, asking questions about her father and dragging up the past, Natasha's interest in piqued. The more time she spends with him, the more she falls for his easy charm and quick smile.

But Sam has secrets of his own - secrets that threaten their blossoming relationship. And when the real reason for Natasha's fathers disinterest becomes apparent, a sacrifice must be made. 

Love, honor and duty collide... risking more than just a broken heart. Sometimes love is worth the ultimate price.

Recommended for 17+ due to mature themes and scenes of an adult nature.

Amazon US
Amazon UK
Barnes and Noble

Not only that but Sacrifice is part of a huge tour. The Insatiable Reads Tour 24 authors have taken part and it's filled with amazing prizes and fabulous blogs. Whenever I have a guest post I'll let you all know here so you too have a chance to enter for some amazing prizes.

Also later in the month I will be hosting a giveaway of my own. I've said, if Sacrifice hits ten reviews on Amazon US by the 10th of July I will giveaway a $50 amazon gift card. If it hits 20 or more, I will double the prize and give a $100 dollar gift card plus I'll add two more prizes of two $50 giftcards for two other lucky winners. So get your reviews in and help make it easy for me to giveaway all these prizes!

Happy 4th of July everyone!

Millie